Young Women Lesson 8: Improving Communication Skills

Testing the words of LDS leaders with Biblical Truth:

February 2010

Young Women Manual 2

OBJECTIVE: Each young woman will seek to improve communication within her family.

* We Can Help to Improve Communication in Our Families (page 31):

Read the following statement: “Each [family member] must be willing to do his part to improve, since the family unit is the basic foundation of the Church. Proper communication will always be a main ingredient for building family solidarity and permanence”.

Test these LDS Words with Biblical Truth:

Seeking to improve communications among your family members is a valiant cause, and, in that respect, I have nothing against this Lesson. I do wonder, though, why this same Lesson is not taught to the Young men as well as the Young Women. Good communication in families depends on men as much as it does women.

What I would like to focus on in this Lesson is the above statement:
“…since the family unit is the basic foundation of the Church”.

Is it true that the basic foundation of the LDS Church is the family?

The very foundation of the Christian Church I attend is Jesus Christ:

“For we are labourers together with God: ye are God’s husbandry, ye are God’s building. According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise masterbuilder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon. For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.” 1 Corinthians 3:9-11

The phrase that was popular when I was LDS was “Family First”. This never bothered me at the time, but when I started really studying the Bible, I discovered that God should be first in our lives, not our family:

“Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” Matthew 10:34-37

As a young woman I had dreams about being married in the Temple for time and all eternity. I always thought that families would be forever. But then I learned from God’s Word that our blood family is replaced with our “faith” family. Eternal life will not be set up around families through lineage. Instead, there is only one eternal family and that is God’s:

“While he yet talked to the people, behold, his mother and his brethren stood without, desiring to speak with him. Then one said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee. But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren? And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren! For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.” Matthew 12:46-50

To read more about being sealed together for time and all eternity, go to this blog Post: “Can Eternal Marriage Be Perfect?” written June 17, 2009; or, Click here:

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